Telling someone about incorporating wholeness is as foreign to someone who has been abused that you have a loving family. There is no point of reference as they might have had one or two abusive parents or foster parents. They don't know what you're talking about. Some people with a mental illness or disorder and/or who have been abused may have been fortunate to know a parent's love. They may have had loving aunts, uncles and cousins. They may also have family members who look down on them with pity and/or disdain (despise, contempt).
Depending on a person's mental illness/disorder, through the right psychotherapy/guidance, they could learn how to be what their wholeness is.
Societal normal wholeness is just a label. Whether someone is considered to be "normal" by society's standards, their wholeness means something different to them. Everyone is an individual made up of unique parts: mental, physical, spiritual and emotional. Helping someone achieve their wholeness capacity is best for them. A one-size-fits-all program isn't suitable for everyone. This is where being a life/wellness coach means you need to get to know a person, listen to their needs, what wholeness means to them before you can even attempt working with them. Also, you need to know that the brain of some with a mental illness or disorder relates, reacts and responds differently than someone who doesn't have a particular illness/disorder.
The societal normal wholeness label is what everyone seems to want to achieve while forgetting they aren't an entire society - they are one person who has their own uniqueness of likes and dislikes. Wholeness is based on what a person wants to change inside of them - not to match anyone else - but to be a better person in themselves. Wholeness means something different to everyone.
What does incorporating wholeness mean to you?