This is my Facebook Live on the misunderstood communications that I had today and how I handled them.
Misunderstood communication can really get the best of any relationship.
This is my Facebook Live on the misunderstood communications that I had today and how I handled them.
There are legitimate reasons for blocking people on social media.
But, blocking people because of what I think isn't legitimate - I don't understand. Maybe someone can enlighten me as there might be new rules that I am not knowledgeable about.
I was followed on one social media platform by a woman and I followed her back because I liked her "messages". She sent me a friend request on Facebook and I accepted. Her posts were positive and I enjoyed reading them.
First, the person put out several messages that if your posts are negative, you will be unfriended and blocked because the person only wanted to read positive messages. I can handle that as I don't like a lot of negativity. There have been people I have "unfollowed" but still remained friends with unless their posts were so toxic, I had to unfriend. If their posts verged on porn, I blocked them.
This person's posts remained upbeat.
Then, her posts were derogatory, inflammatory, sarcastic and, at first, I thought she was having a bad day. Obviously her bad day has extended to months of tirades about people. I gave her the benefit of the doubt because she is having issues in her personal life.
This person does block the scammers who profess to being widowed millionaires. I block them too. So legitimate.
Then, the tirades went from if you think I'm going to be your friend because you send me a picture of a castle and say it's your home, or you have a yacht - you have something else coming.
Why even give breath to what people are doing?
Well, her friend requests from these types of scammers increased. Put a challenge out there and there are people who will take you up on it.
This person works from home and started flaunting that she made a lot of money on her home business and if she worked in an office, she would have to ask for a huge raise to pay for some huge bills that had come in. I won't state the nature of these bills but I can tell you they weren't credit card debt. They were for a beloved animal's vet bills.
I can understand the stress she went through for months on this and still gave her the benefit of the doubt.
Then, her posts became nastier and she even turned her "attitude" on me. She was splitting hairs and how did I NOT know something was lumped in with something else.
I let it go by taking the high road. I didn't search for her posts and read them. I only read them when they came through my news feed and were staring me in the face. I kept praying her attitude would turn around. I even offered compassion and sympathy about her beloved pet.
She kept posting about blocking this person because of this and that person because of whatever. To me, it was sounding ridiculous and of course, she had friends who are on her band wagon. I'm glad she has friends to commiserate with her.
Then, I unfriend her when I read the latest of tirades, "I blocked a lot of people who sent me an event invite. Can't they ask me if I am interested first? How rude of them!"
The question that came to my mind, only I didn't ask it was: "Does this mean if someone snail mailed you a party invitation without asking you ahead of time if you would like to receive the invite, would you have stopped talking to them?"
Am I out in left field here about event invites? Should someone ask someone ahead of time if they would like to attend their event or just send the invite without asking? To me, it's not the same as adding someone to your "group" without asking them if they are interested - to me the group adding thing is rude.
I would like to hear your comments.
I am SO pleased that my web site is back up and running. Talk about a fiasco!
I had purchased my domain name last year on GoDaddy. It wasn't until this year that I could afford to purchase web hosting.
I contacted a company for web hosting and picked a plan that was affordable to me. I called their sales department and I was walked through the steps on how to forward my domain name to their site. GoDaddy only charges a little over five dollars a year to host your domain name. This other company charges $19.95 a year. I prefer the money in my pocket.
The person in the sales department talked to me as if he was bored and I was stupid. I asked him if he could walk me through the steps and he did intermittently "sighing". I asked an intelligent question after making the selection about the name servers - do I need to do anything else or will my domain name automatically be forwarded from GoDaddy? He told me I did NOT have to do anything else and it would take 48 hours for my domain site to go live. This was on a Thursday so by Saturday my domain site would be active. NOT!
On Wednesday, November 8th, I called "the company" to find out why my domain wasn't active. I pressed the option for technical support and this is what I heard from a recording, "We recognize, by your phone number on file, that you didn't pay for the plan with phone support. You will need to submit an email with your request". Yes, I'm serious about this.
So, I submit my request and, in the past, I had heard from this company within one to two hours. By Thursday, NOTHING!
Thursday morning, I called GoDaddy to see if I had done anything wrong. Their tech support was fabulous to me! Within five minutes, the problem was resolved. "The company's" software interface didn't update the name servers. I was told by the rep at GoDaddy that this step could only be done MANUALLY and that I would have to call the company's tech support to get this taken care of. I told him my experience with the phone recording. He couldn't believe this company worked like this. I couldn't either since they "used to be" a top notch company and that is why I went back to them.
The GoDaddy rep asked me what I paid for my domain and I told him what the cost was for ONE year. He told me with paying only ELEVEN dollars more, I could have my domain paid for - for THREE years. He even sent me an email with the link.
I called "the company" and told them my story. I was told by this sales rep that he was one of the few good reps at the company. I told him the rude treatment I had received the previous week and he asked for a name. I was happy to give it. I asked him how do I get my free site back and the rep "kindly and professionally" told me. I asked for a refund and one was processed. I received a confirmation email.
It wasn't until AFTER I asked for a refund did I receive an email from tech support apologizing for the terrible delay and how could they help me. I had already sent the information in on the support ticket. I sent an email and told them because of their lack of professionalism, being nice and delay, I went to another company to host my domain.
My free site will remain up while I build my new site. After that time, I will have a forwarding link on the main page so you can find me there.
Do flu shots really bring on the flu season and epidemics? My personal opinion from what I have seen and heard is YES.
My mother and brother both got flu shots. Both were hospitalized within 24 to 48 hours. My mother almost died and she claimed she was given the live virus. While the doctor assured her that she received the "dead" virus, my mother and I didn't believe him. While my brother was in the hospital, he was in isolation while my mother was in the Intensive Care Unit. This happened every time they received the flu shot.
I knew two people who received the flu shot and died two to four weeks later. They had gone to their doctor for a physical and all reports showed these people were in excellent health. Their hearts were in excellent health. They both told me they didn't feel right or good after receiving the flu shot. One of the men was in the hospital in I.C.U. for two weeks and the day after he was released to go to work, he died. The other one didn't feel good either after the flu shot and died a month later and the doctors never could find a cause of death.
One woman I know said she had gotten the flu shot once and had gotten so sick, she never got another shot.
The theory is that the vaccine will cause a mild form of the disease to allow your body to make antibodies to fight it.
Interesting theory the research is now showing. For years, medical research and doctors have said that the flu shot will NEVER give you the flu.
At least research is now spouting out the truth after years of the vaccine being out.
The severity of the flu can range from mild to very severe depending on several factors, including the viral strain, the patient’s age, and health. Certain groups are at higher risk for serious complications from the flu.
If you have the flu, stay home and rest, both to recover and to avoid infecting others.(Employers do frown on you coming to work sick and staying home if you're sick - talk about a no win situation).
In mild cases, treatment is limited to addressing the symptoms of the disease: over-the-counter medicines such as aspirin or Tylenol may be used to reduce fever (if you have one) relieve aches and pains, and cough medicine may be used for sore throats and to reduce coughing. Drinking extra fluids may be encouraged to prevent dehydration.
Also, use a humidifier with Eucalyptus oil to help clear out your bronchial tubes as pneumonia is the most commonly seen complication of influenza infection. You can have someone palpate your back where your lungs are to help bring up any mucous that may be lodged in your lungs.
Raw fresh garlic (either on top of your food or made into a soup broth) is a great natural antibiotic and if you have a tendency for a urinary tract infection, drink unsweetened cranberry juice once a day until you are better.
For severe cases, or for individuals at high risk for complications, physicians may prescribe antiviral medication. Many circulating influenza strains have developed resistance to available antivirals, however. Vaccination remains the primary avenue for the prevention of the flu.
Not everyone gets sick from the flu shot - it's a gamble. Will you be one who does get sick or doesn't? You will only know after getting a flu shot.
I, personally, have never gotten a flu shot nor will I after what I have seen.. I have had doctors and medical assistants argue with me about needing to get the shot. I stand my ground and it also helps to be allergic to eggs, to not getting the flu shot, as that is what the vaccine is cultured in.
So, do flu shots contribute or cause the flu season? I do believe they do. I have heard arguments that the type of flu changes every year. I don't know about this but I do see some people affected one way with the flu while others have completely different symptoms so we may have more than one type of flu going around in the air.
Get plenty of rest, drink plenty of fluids and eat a healthy meal plan to be at your optimal health all year long. Oh and don't forget to exercise and laugh to help build your immune system.
Pima Air and Space Museum is a great place to visit. You can see old bombs, planes, helicopters, the airplane graveyard and learn many interesting facts about the planes and the crew who were on them.
The museum has five hangars that have planes hanging from the air to sitting on the floor. The aircraft and the floor rotate depending on what is coming in to be on display.
There is also a tram ride which will take you on a wonderful journey to see the airplanes on the premises.
If you wish to see 2600 acre Aircraft Boneyard/U.S. military and government aircraft storage facility, bus tours are available. The boneyard is not located at the Pima Air and Space Museum and the only way you can see the boneyard is by signing up for a bus tour at the museum. The tours operate only Monday through Friday and not on Federal holidays. I have yet to see the boneyard and that is on my list of places to see in 2018.
The museum opened in 1976 with only 25 aircraft and now have over 300 historical aircraft on display.
I have been to the Pima Air and Space Museum twice and have had a very informational docent led tour. The docents spend hours knowing the history of the air craft in the hangars in which they are assigned to volunteer.
I have gone on these tours during the spring time before the weather gets too hot. If you do decide to visit the museum during the summer, please take note that the hangars are not air conditioned. While the hangars do have evaporative coolers, they are run at a minimum which makes the hangar heat up hotter than the outside air. Drink plenty of water and have an ice wrap for your neck if you wish to stay cool and hydrated. If you're pregnant, summertime is not a good time to visit the museum because of the heat.
If you visit, the museum, during the winter months, and Tucson is not having a mild winter, the hangars are not heated so please bundle up to stay warm.
Prepare to do a lot of walking so make sure you are wearing comfortable shoes. If you're not able to do a lot of walking, please bring your own walker and/or wheelchair as these are not provided as a courtesy service by the museum. The hangars and buildings are wheelchair accessible and the buildings that are more than one story, do have an elevator that will fit one person who is a wheelchair user.
Plan to spend hours to an entire day at the museum. There is a restaurant on site that sells excellent food.
You can take plenty of pictures so make sure that you have an extra fully charged camera battery and memory sticks so you won't miss out on taking pictures to your heart's content.
Throughout the year, the museum puts on special events. Please visit their website for this information at: http://www.pimaair.org/
I have compiled a short slide show highlighting some of the planes at the museum. You can watch it below.
For over 30 years, I have been working on myself to become better. I remember at age 29, I wondered what was wrong with me because of making such horrible choices. So, my self-help journey began. It wasn't until many years later, did I find I was choosing what was familiar. Up until that point, I was treating the symptoms and although I was, I made a lot of positive progress. Then, after an intense year of the right psychotherapy, I was able to truly forgive and move forward.
My self-help journey is now called personal development. Through applying more of what I read, plus my brain working at optimum power which blows me away at times, I am able to distinguish and make better choices.
I am learning what I do to sabotage myself only because I was taught to do that by my parents and brother. I have learned what the key emotion sets me up to do that and I will pay closer attention to not sabotaging myself from here on out.
I have also looked at mentors. There are mentors who are charging as much as Darren Hardy and they don't have the history behind them as he does. They are teaching what they haven't experienced. Why pick someone who hasn't done it yet? I'm sure they can help me but only in the area of their experience. I won't pay their fee until they have a track record of experience to warrant my hiring them. Besides, I can get a lot of Darren Hardy and Tony Robbins material from free to nominal - $50.
Did you know that by reading and watching their materials won't do it for you without applying what you learned? Some people need others to kick them in the backside for them to get moving. I'm that way at times and then after reading three-quarters of the book The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy was I able to say, "I will do this".
Just buy applying some fundamentals from both Tony Robbins and Darren Hardy, I have been able to accomplish a lot.
This is what I accomplished today:
Prayer time - 30 minutes
Listened to 3 chapters of the Bible
Watched 1 hour of personal development videos
Played with my dog
Changed my dog's bedding
Walked my dog twice
I finished all the above by 8:45 in the morning. I didn't accomplish all of this going from one task to the other. I had rest breaks in between. I didn't have people interrupting me like I would at a workplace or if I had people working for me.
After a three hour rest period, I gave my dog a bath.
The rest of the day was mine to do as I pleased like relax, rest, Facebook, check email, watch movies or read a book.
Do I no longer need to read personal development books and stop watching the videos? No, because I need the constant reminder of what to do because I can't remember it all. Once this information becomes a daily habit, I can still watch and read to hone my skills. My brain needs to be refreshed and kept on its toes if I am going to achieve what I desire.
Mentors are great and I have had a few good ones and a few bad ones. I can also receive the same support from people living success by sending them a private message and it's free. I enjoy learning from others and I don't mind paying for their expertise either. I will be able to afford higher end mentors to keep achieving. That is a huge goal of mine.
What bad habits do you need to change out for good habits?
Where does your focus go awry?
"Everything works better by making small changes and being consistent than making drastic changes which won't last." Darren Hardy
Yes, money adds up in one big pot - if you let it.
I have met people who throw money away because they don't think that a penny here, a nickle there and a dime adds up to much of anything, I wonder how much money these people have intentionally thrown away over the years.
Whenever I see money, on the ground, I pick it up and put it in my pocket regardless if it's a penny, nickle, dime or quarter. On very rare occasions, I have found a dollar bill a time or two.
Where I live, I have picked up close to $2.00 in a two week period literally off the ground. I add it to my pot of change and I have close to $20 saved up already.
About thirty years ago, my mom and I sold crafts at craft venues and that's when tables went anywhere from $5.00 to $15.00 - not like today when the tables go for $200 to $800 dollars for ONE day.
Anyway, my mom told me to crochet items that I could sell for twenty-five to fifty cents with a few dollar and higher ticketed items. She said to make more of the lower priced items. At one craft show, I sold my entire table out and made $50. Guess how many twenty-five and fifty cent items that I sold to make up the $50? A lot! I did have a few dollar items in there but most of the items were under a dollar. I did get my time out of the items when they only took 10 to 15 minutes to make and that's when I paid $1.00 for a skein of yarn with the amount of yarn used was about 1/4 or 1/2 cent.
You might think that I am wasting my time, Obviously, I don't because all the money that I make goes into one big pot. Multiple streams of income. Some people complain they might only sell one book a month and the royalties on their book is anywhere from $1 to $4 depending if the book sold in paperback or Kindle format.
Well, that dollar is more than they had before and when they add it all together - over time - the amount of money grows. That is what is called The Compound Effect.
I choose to save up what I have regardless of the amount because it could add up to $10 or more in any given month. I do bring in a higher income on some other things. To me, this all adds up and money on the ground is literally "found money".
Just know that if you don't pick it up, someone else will know the value and pick it up. They will thank whoever it is that dropped the change and possibly along with thanking God.
Pick it up or not pick it up - that is your choice.
Tucson, Arizona may seem like an unlikely spot to spend your next vacation. Most people think of the Grand Canyon when they think of Arizona. When you come to Tucson, there is so much more to see and experience which people don't realize unless they have lived here or visited friends and family.
Tucson is a very culturally rich city and there is a vast number of places to enjoy all the way from downtown to the north, east, west and south parts of the city. Tombstone is a few hours drive away.
If you visit during the first week of the month, you can visit several museums, art galleries and events, which are free, cutting down on some of the expense of your trip. If you love music, we have the philharmonic orchestra which Marvin Hamlisch was once the conductor. The philharmonic puts on free events throughout the year in various parks around the area.
The Pima County Library hold many free events, for both children and adults, which include travel, Tai Chi, family board games and the like.
If you like the excitement of a small city community, historic Fourth Avenue is the best place to be. There is everything from various cultural food restaurants, pubs, ice cream vendors, book stores, food coop and many more stores which sell trinkets to appease your souvenir fever.
If you're visiting in December or May, there's the historic Fourth Avenue street fairs with artisans visiting from all over the state. If you want to see what the local artists are showing, there's the Made in Tuscon Market in mid-November. Here you can purchase your holiday gifts for friends, loved ones or that something special you are looking for to brighten your home. Don't forget the trolley you can take from Fourth Avenue to downtown in a matter of minutes so you can park your car in one spot and travel to experience downtown without the aggravation of driving through traffic.
If you're into air craft, there's the Pima Air and Space Museum. You might want to block off a couple of days to visit the museum as there is so much to experience.
If you're into horses, there are dressage and jumping events which take place at Kino Sports Complex on Ajo Way, which is right next to Banner Hospital.
Depending on the time of year, Tucson has many cultural events and their own version of Comi-con which is known as Tucson Comic Con where big name actors and screenwriters attend. There's a vast array of individuals dressed up as their favorite science fiction character and many vendors you would see at a Comi-con event.
If you like visiting zoos, Tucson is the home to the Reid Park Zoo. Also on the grounds, is a dog park, the Rose Garden, fountain with various types of ducks and egretes.
If you're a nature buff or a photographer, there's the Desert Museum, Collosal Cave underground caverns and other drive through areas to experience the beauty of the desert.
While the summers in Tucson are quite extreme, make sure you drink plenty of water and don't plan on going hiking in the mountains during the afternoon or evenings when the heat is at its worse. The best time to hike, in the summer, is during early summer and in the morning. Take several bottles of water with you to stay hydrated.
If you choose to vacation during the winter, when the temperatures range from a high in the mid-sixties to seventies with a few days in the eightie, Tucson is a nice getaway with much to experience. If you like the nightlife, downtown Tucson and Fourth Avenue have much to experience along with various seasonal activities and regular events going on throughout the area.
Depending on your taste, Tucson will most likely be able to satisfy what you like to do while you're on vacation. Try Tucson for your next getaway.
"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." Jim Rohn
If you hang around with thugs - you will most likely become one.
If you hang with bullies, you will most likely become one.
If you hang with people who edify, uplift and have high integrity - this is what you will most likely become.
The words "game changer" is what is highly used in some circles. My words are, "Be a game changer not a gamer". Big difference between the two sayings.
The words - be a better you today than you were yesterday are also going around. People spout them off and if you take a really close look at their lives, over time and personal experience, you will truly see if they are better now than they were three years ago - one year ago and if they are a gamer or a game changer.
There are people, who run a business, who are scared to be transparent. You might think they are when you don't realize they are a gamer - they treat you with disrespect, they lie and tell you that they are doing these extraordinary things only they tell you not to tell anyone, They don't tell anyone either because these "things" don't exist. They are gamers.
There are some people who are just plain scared to be transparent because they think they might lose business if you see them as a person being personable. Some people have other reasons.
Then on the other hand, you have people who will confide in you what is coming down the pike because you are in their inner circle and they know they can trust you. Then, when the extraordinary events happen, these people post about them. They are game changers.
Regardless of their age, which one would you associate with? If you're not associating with these game changers - why not? If you want to go higher - learn from them. Some of the game changers don't want to be bothered with "free" mentoring - they want your money. Then, there are game changers who will mentor you for free - who will be your role model. If these people are mentoring you for free - show your appreciation with a handwritten note - not an email - and mail it to them if they will give you their address. Many have a business address. Call them on the phone and tell them how much you appreciate their work. Promote what they do to show your appreciation.
Mentor with someone who has already done what you want to do - not with someone who says they are "doing it". You may realize they aren't doing it but just out there trying to make a fast buck. You can only lead from experience and if a person doesn't have that experience find someone who does. In time, you will know the difference. Invest your time in finding the truth. Then, walk away and find someone who is truly living that truth.
So much catastrophe is going on in the world. We don't hear of a lot of it but could we really handle more catastrophic news? How is it that some people appear as if they don't care of these events don't bother them?
I can only answer for me. That answer is focus. It's what I focus on.
Focus is clarity of vision and concentration of energy.
I choose to focus on God. I choose to not focus on what is going on in the world. What you focus on comes more to you.
2 Corinthians 11:3 KJV - "But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ."
If I continue to focus on God, more of what He has for me comes to me. I also don't wan to give foot to the devil so I keep my mind on Christ.
We are directed in Philippians 4:8 what to think on: "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."
The catastrophes are not lovely, just, pure, of good report - Jesus is!
I want to please God.
2 Timothy 2:4 - "No one serving as a soldier gets entangled in civilian affairs, but rather tries to please his commanding officer."
Our commanding officer is GOD!! If I get entangled in things of this world, I am not trusting God which doesn't please Him.
While I say prayers for what is going on - I don't focus or dwell on it. I know what the Bible says and there's nothing I can do to stop it. I find that I am stable regardless of the chaos that is going on around me. Why is that? Because there is no stability outside of Jesus Christ.
Yes, all of this is scary but we are told that one day we will see Jesus as He is.
1 John 3:2 - "Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is".
This is when we go see Him when we are taken from this earth. It's understandable that the unknown is scary and if we think of the unknown, we will be scared. I have these thoughts from time to time and I do my best to focus on God and what He has put before me.
Let us not forget who we are in Christ.
2 Peter 1:8-9 KJV - "8 For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
9 But he that lacketh these things is blind, and cannot see afar off, and hath forgotten that he was purged from his old sins."
If we lack anything of Christ, let us seek after Him and study & apply the Bible so that we can be fruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ and continue to be purged from our old sins.
Also, we must focus on our love for one another.
Romans 13:8 KJV - " Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law."
Let us fulfill what Jesus has taught us to do. Let us focus on God, His love, loving one another along with treating each other in a humane way.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.